In this week
- Your worth isn’t defined by rejection or how others treat you—it’s defined by how you show up for yourself.
- Self-criticism and childhood patterns fuel negative beliefs, but self-compassion builds resilience and healing.
- Freedom comes when you reclaim your value, silence negativity, and become your own strongest ally.
Dear Beautiful Soul,
There will always be people ready to dim your light, but you don’t have to join them. This is your time to disengage from negativity and become your greatest ally. If you’ve been hard on yourself, ask this: How has being so self-critical truly helped me?
For a long time, I let others define my worth. As a child, I created a belief system rooted in rejection. I remember giving a best friend heart necklace (remember those?)to two girls in my class, Lisa and Ashley, only to have my gesture met with rejection. Years later, I experienced a similar sting when I was cheated on by someone I loved. In both cases, I felt unworthy—of friendship, love, and connection.
But here’s what I’ve learned through heartbreak and healing: My worth is not tied to how others treat me. That realization was liberating.
I began to decouple my sense of value from other people’s actions and perceptions. Instead, I asked myself: How do I show up for my own brain, heart, body, and soul? Because that, above all else, reflects how I view myself.
You have control over your actions and reactions. The way others feel about you is not necessarily a reflection of you. True freedom comes when you reclaim your sense of worth and begin treating yourself as the incredible person you are.
Did you know? ⭐️
- Research shows that 80% of negative self-talk is rooted in childhood experiences. Recognizing these patterns is the first step to changing them.
- Studies also reveal that focusing on self-compassion increases emotional resilience and reduces feelings of rejection.
1 Actionable Tip for You This Week:
📝 Reflect on how much of an impact others have on your well-being.
- Take 10 minutes to sit with this question: How much power do I give to others in defining my worth?
- Write down your thoughts. What patterns do you notice? Awareness is the first step to taking back control.
🧘🏼♀️Two Tools to Keep You Grounded:
- Guided Meditation:
- Listen to this meditation on overcoming self-limiting thoughts and reclaiming your worth.
- Access the meditation here.
- Self-Limiting Beliefs Worksheet:
- Use this worksheet to identify and challenge the beliefs that are holding you back.
- Download the worksheet here.
💪🏼 Motivational Quote:
"Believe you can and you’re halfway there." – Eleanor Roosevelt
This is your reminder that the first step to changing your life is believing you’re worthy of the change.
A Gentle Reminder:
Sweet friend, your worth has never depended on someone else’s opinion or actions. It always resides within you. Take this week to reflect, realign, and reclaim your light. You are deserving of the love, respect, and kindness that starts with how you treat yourself.
I’m here for you, and there’s more to come next week.
